Things have changed since my hubby and I have had children, just a weensy-teensy bit. Seriously, I look back over the last decade that we have been together and reminisce about sleeping in on Saturdays until it was time to get up and go out that evening. We used to live in the heart of Edmonton, where night life and art culture was at our doorstep, we never worried about babysitters, bedtime, tummy aches (unless self-inflicted), or only getting a measly two hours of sleep before work. We went out at our leisure, and enjoyed frequent date nights and semi disposable income.
Skip five years later, two little boys, two homes owned, relocation to another province, change of career paths and loads of other life altering events and decisions, and here we see ourselves; trying to pencil in date nights and secure a sitter.
Amidst the chaotic routine (if that makes sense), Mr. Hubby and I don’t have the same days off. We see each other in the evenings and for a brief coffee and car ride in the mornings. We try to squeeze in date nights, but, well BUT. Something always comes up, sitter cancels, a little guy is sick, one of us has work to take home, someone didn’t book it on their turn, or quite simply, we forget.
When we finally get the date actually set in stone, and make this a regular habit, here are a few things that are frugal ways we will enjoy each others’ company, aside from complimenting each others’ haircut in passing.
Coffee at the beach, in the evening or in the early morning. Watching the sun set or rise, seeing the Herons standing still in the glassy waters.
Playing scrabble or some other random board game on our patio with a bottle of wine, late into the night.
Going for a run together. In all the years together we have never run together ( this will be a while, but worth a shot).
Going to the Starlight Drive-In, we are lucky enough to have one in the North Okanagan.
Weekend retreat Hotel, Camping, anywhere I don’t care, so long as the scenery is incredible and we can enjoy some moments of silence, gratitude and acknowledge each others’ presence.
Every time I watch Steve Carell and Tina Fey in Date Night, I am brought into the reality of parenthood and adulthood. Love your children with all your heart, and remember to hold the hand of the one who brought you to this place.
Cheers Hubby xx