In my attempt to be a modest mummy, I have decided that this year for the holidays to make sure that family and friends do not buy my children toys. That’s not it. I asked some family members to engage their children and get our kids to make one another Christmas gifts this year. To be honest, I am sick of stationary gifts, my kids have reached maximum toy capacity, we always buy books or head for weekly visits to the library and we have more than enough family movies to go around. Do they really “need” anything? No, they don’t, and neither do I. We have plenty of everything, as most of us do.
With my present effort to salvage my husbands hard-earned dollar, I also want my children to enjoy a very thoughtful and humble Christmas Season. I’m not saying that the “magic” that is part of the season will suddenly take a backseat and that there won’t be a mysterious package from Santa underneath the boldly decorated Christmas tree, but there will not be useless items, taking up space and eventually filling landfills because they have become forgotten or broken in the mess of having “stuff”.
My husband and I have for years just done stocking stuffers for each other and every few years we decide to allow a gift to go along with the stockings for each other. I certainly don’t mind, in fact I like knowing that there will be teeny-weeny little gifts in a small package waiting for me, I like even more that it takes much more effort to come up with a few small, frugal and still thoughtful gifts to fill our skinny knitted stockings. I want my children to learn enough about their cousins, aunts and uncles and immediate family to be able to think of something they could make that would mean something to the person they’re giving it too. I don’t want them to grow up making me a list from the Sears wish list and emailing a copy to Santa Claus. No thank you. I was never privy to making a wish list for my parents, and generally I think I feel good about the holiday season.
This will be the beginning of many occasions that our family will share the tradition in being more thoughtful. We can start off with a big holiday season and hopefully my children will learn, as I’m sure I will too, that we can always find ways of being more thoughtful, loving, real and still make other people feel incredibly special, no matter what time of year it is. It is much easier after all to head to the mall, find a generic toy that says ages 4+ or pick up a gift card (I am not shamming anyone for doing so) and throw the plastic on the counter, and I have never taken the easy way in anything I do.
Cheers to keeping the holidays REAL and turning ordinary days into more thoughtful days.